June 2, 2007
I’m sleeping with a married man….
Im sorry that I am so foolish!! I know what I am doing is stupid, but its so fun and exciting I just cant help it. Im sleeping with a married man of thirty years old. WOW that sounds trashy! I was once such a classy girl, now I am no longer true to myself. I know this relationship will go NOWHERE! But I blindly hold on to some kind of hope… I will be so sorry in the future, I know this.Submitted by: Gabby
At 3:30 am on July 16, 2007, Richelle commented:
Im sleeping with a married man who is also my manager at work. People are starting to assume shit. I know its not going anywhere and it sickens me that I would do this to a innocent woman and family. Rebound relationship for me but still so wrong, cause when you sleep with a married man you are more than likely looking to get heartbroken. Im in for hell because I couldnt control the urge to hook up with my “hot boss.”
At 6:15 am on July 16, 2007, JP commented:
After my divorce with my ex, I met a guy, who ended up being married. At first I was hesitant, because my husband cheated on me with his current girlfriend when we were still married, and I know how much it truly hurt me. But I gave into to my sexual needs and slept with him, over and over again for a about a month and a half. Then, he told me one day he couldn’t continue to do it, that he needed to step up to the plate and be a better father to his daughter, and try to work things out with his wife. I had mixed emotions about that, because I wish my husband would have made that desicion for me and our two sons, but he chose his girlfriend instead, but on the other hand i was a little upset, only because he led me on telling me what we had was cool. We stopped talking for about 5 months, but just today he texted me with he wanted to see me again soon. I want to see him, because he has been on my mind the whole time, but then I am worried I will go through the same shit all over again…It is a bad idea to get involved with a married man, because one way or the other someone is bound to get hurt…
At 10:56 pm on October 5, 2007, G double o D good commented:
Do it. Be with the Married Man. No one is grading you on this, but yourself. Eventually we are all going to get hurt one way or another. What IF he really is the one for you? How would you know? Or did you already set yourself up for failure? What, just because it’s not socially or morally accepted in our society? There are thousands of things that are still not accepted in our society… who made these rules to complicate our lives anyway? Do what you want to do. You are a grown and mature adult. You are aware of the consequences and the disadvantages. What else is new? Live it up and stop asking for advice.
At 6:40 pm on October 7, 2007, bad girl gone worse commented:
g double o g
that was the realist comment i have ever read
life is all about living
At 6:52 am on November 18, 2007, a commented:
I totally disagree. What seeds you sow you will reap - plant carefully. And, what he/she does to someone else they will certainly do to you too. Man for you?#@$! Come on.
At 3:38 pm on January 30, 2008, Steph Moore commented:
Have a little dignity, sweetie! You deserve better than someone else’s seconds and honey, you will always be second to his wife! Where is your integrity - if you don’t know what it means - look it up! Married men are not for you to screw around with - what if you were the wife - would you want someone doing that to you? Get a brain!
At 2:26 am on February 20, 2008, stuck in a bad situation commented:
i am 30 years old and have been sleeping with a married man for 2yrs i never thought this would be me but when i met him i couldnt help myself he is everything i ever wanted in a man but hes not mine and will never be we have a good relationship and we enjoy each other he has never said anything about leaving his wife i dont think he ever will i just cant figure out why i am so in love with him i would never say a word to his wife or jepordize his marriage because it is not her fault that he is what he is but at the same time i wonder if you come to me for what she isnt doing what is the reason he is still there
At 4:36 pm on March 20, 2008, concerned commented:
My friend just told me that she is sleeping with a married salesman that asked for her number one day. At first, innocent dates, supper etc. Now when he calls and tells her he is in the area she gets in the car with her overnight bag ready for the hotel he’s staying at. How disgraceful. Until she met him, she was a virgin. I had also asked her to be my maid of honor this summer, someone to stand up in believing that two people are meant for each other and publicly saying vows. And she’s out &*E@ing a married man herself! It’s embarassing. But of course no one knows about it so it’s all ok… wake up and smell the dam coffee!
At 6:33 pm on March 30, 2008, Confused Girl commented:
Im sleeping with a married man - When we first met he tld me he was single, we had a few dates and then eventually he told me the truth! But by then I really liked him and so I can understasnd how you feel! But Im not stupid, he is 18 yrs older than me and so is his wife - I feel bad for her but at the same time I just cant help myself. HE IS A BASTARD I WISH HE WOULD JUST LEAVE EITHER ME OR HER!!
At 1:46 am on April 16, 2008, Attracted2theTaken commented:
Wow. Up until I read these posts, I thouhgt I was the only woman sleeping with a married man…and enjoying every minute of it. This guy I met a little over a month ago. He’s so sexy and everything I want in a man. I know that he will never be mine and I am ok with the fact that he may never leave his wife. I don’t want to marry him, I just want to f*&^ him! That sounds harsh but it’s true.
Now, for the longest time I lived by the whole “You reap what you sow” motto but I realized that I am meant to be by myself. I just don’t believe there is anyone out there for me. So am I supposed to be lonely and watch everyone live it up? Hell no! I’m going for mine! That sounds horrible but I’m tired of “saving myself” for that special someone when the truth is HE IS NOT OUT THERE! So….I’m enjoying myself right now.
Yahoooo!!!!!
At 6:55 pm on May 21, 2008, infatuatedgirl commented:
I, too, am sleeping with a married man. I never, in a million years, thought that I would be someone to do such a thing. But, at the same time, I can honestly say he is everything I need right now. I dont want a relationship, not like the ones all my girlfriends have. Not now. So, for the time being, I will enjoy him.
At 1:48 pm on May 23, 2008, Emilia commented:
Hi all, well I’ve been sleeping with a married guy since last fall. What can I say he is 32 years older than me, I’m in my early thirties, and so I got lazy, I got tired of waiting for Mr. Right, most of the young guys I’ve met are stupid, and immature. This guy works in the same company I work, is 6′3, athletic, caring, super smart (a phd from harvard) elegant, very masculine with a deep sexy voice. I never thought in my life would have ever imagined myself in this situation, but the chemistry was so strong, that I fell for him very quickly. He seemed to be very needed of affection and attention, and he’s pretty bored of her high class lifestyle, with all its manners and always keeping up appearances, and there I was, a bad ass girl with hot bods and brain, he couldn’t even resist and both of we gave in to our fleshy desires… We fell in love, but he as a man is more mental than emotional, so he is having a bash living a life with her wife in a nother country, and here with me seeing me not so often now. Well it was easy to enter but I don’t find the way out, help, I want to open my eyes, and use my brain, because I know this is a no win situation, that he’s using me for sex, company or whatever but he will never commit himself to me, he is already comitted. We meet almost every week, and I glow when I’m with him, but when he’s away I don’t know what to do, I feel so miserable when I don’t see his car in the parking lot cause I know he has left the town and headed to his home. And I’m alone, again, I’m alone when I’m with him, anyways, because he’s not there for me when I need him… This ain’t no worth my time, my emotional and physical health. I decided to leave him, we’ll see if this time I can, wish me luck, I want to break free LOL.
At 8:54 pm on May 23, 2008, Falling for him... commented:
I have been sleeping with a married man for almost a year now, at first it was just exciting and fun, now I am getting attached to him. We have a lot in common and I enjoy our conversations, the sex is amazing… we both agree that if things were different we would definitely see what could happen. I am not stupid, I know he will never leave her, but I am addicted to him, I can’t stop seeing him. The fact that he is my boss and have to see each other almost everyday doesn’t help. I feel bad at times, but would he really be involved with me if he was completely happy at home??
At 5:32 pm on July 16, 2008, CialisKa commented:
Usefool post, thx
At 7:33 pm on August 6, 2008, Anonymous commented:
I dated a married man for 6 months and it was great at the beginning of the relationship. He treated me like his gf and spent a lot of quality time with me. We didn’t even have sex for the first month or so and it showed that he really wanted to get to know me as a person. He never mentioned his other life much and kept it to himself which was fine by me. I’m sure he loved his wife and I don’t think he had any intention of leaving her and I was fine with that.I respected the limits of our relationship due to his marriage. I just got relegated to a booty call in the end and that was the main problem. He only called me when he was bored or wanted to get laid. There was no way I would ever be the equal to his wife but I at least wanted to be respected.
At 12:24 pm on August 9, 2008, Shelly commented:
Okay… Like many of you, I am in the same situation.. For the past year, I have built a relationship with a married man. He is everything that I have ever wanted in a man, and I still love him with all my heart.. I would have never thought that I could get myself in to such a mess.. But I did, and Im afraid it is going to take more than just a paper towel to clean up this spill.. He has no intention of ever leaving his wife.. He is not happy at home, and he is extremely bored… But he does not believe in divorce… (How can you believe in having an affair but not divorce?) Problem is… I am really stuck.. I love him, I feel lost when I am not with him, and frankly he has been the best man I have ever been with.. BUT I WANT OUT!!! I can no longer take playing 2nd best, or having to be quiet when he is on the phone, or having to wait by my phone for txt messages when they go on vacation and I cant see him.. I am a terrible person for what I have done, and I almost hate myself for it, as I should!! Never is it right to wreck someone elses world especially when there is no prize in the end.. I am sitting here in a dead end relationship becuase he is married, yet I am the one that gets made to feel like the dishonest one.. He gets very upset if I talk to other men and I do not tell him.. He has even started checking my e-mail… I don’t want comments back telling me Im stupid, and to just walk away.. I really am desperate for advice on how to walk away and not come back.. Please!!! Somebody help me… He will have it end with me thinking that I messed up.. I dont want it that way.. I want to walk away with a little of my dignity left… God, I am just so hurt by all of this.. If you can help.. I look forward to hearing from you..
At 8:04 pm on August 17, 2008, G's Girl commented:
Well I just started sleeping with a married man about a month or more ago. He’s awesome. He has been married 26 yrs! Before me, he had a 6 year affair with another woman. He isnt happy at home and says Im the only person he can be himself with. I have even met his 22 yr old son who approves of his dads behaivor. I really didnt expect this, I thought it was going to be a one time thing. So did he, but we were wrong. We spend alot of time together and do insane things together. At home he is straight faced, very active in his church. With me hes a pot smoking, drinking, gun shooting redneck lol. I dont understand how he can be 2 totally different ppl in a days time. Im not looking for him to leave his wife, it will eventually happen we both know but it will be just cause they arent happy together not because of another woman or man. He lets me in soooo much of his life, all but meeting his wife lol. Thanks Gosh. I know we are headed down a dangerous path and it scares me!
At 4:32 pm on September 8, 2008, Brittany! commented:
I’m in the same exact situation!! I’ve been sleeping with a married man for the past 3 months. He’s 36 years old. 14 years older than me. I work at the daycare that his babies go too and I’m with them everyday and been with them everyday since they were 6 weeks old. (they are now 2 years old .. his youngest being 3 months old) I’m very close to them and have always been close to him as well. He always brings the kids in the the dayacre, never his wife because she works so much. She only brings them in everyonce in a blue moon. He always knew everything about my personal life. When he would come in to drop the babies off, he would ask how my weekends were, what i did, if i met any guys. He knew EVERYTHING that went on in my life.. if i met a new guy, he knew about it. if i had a bad date, he knew about it and was always there as a shoulder to bitch on LOL. All the other girls that work at the daycare think he is gorgeous too. How can you not love a man in a suit? LOL..And he has the BEST personality. When his 3rd child was born a few months ago, he called me while his wife was in the hospital and asked me to come over. I was soo nervous but i couldnmt say no. Thats when it all started. I feel like the WORST person in the world for what I’m doing!!!! I’m not a slut! i never was … I was one of the most innocent girls you would ever meet! but temmptation took over! and now i’m deeply in love with him and cant pull myself out of this!! its so hard seeing him everday and taking care of his children everyday. He’s everything i could ever want. We talk alot on the phone and meet up every few weeks. He goes away alot for work and i’ll spend the night at the hotel with him. It so exciting and fun.. But i know hes not leaving his wife. And i would never want to break up there family because i do love his kids SOO MUCH and would never want them to grow up in a split household… i just dont know what to do!!
I’m completely miserable when im not near him.. I cant imagine my life without him in it
At 6:52 pm on September 20, 2008, Kof commented:
I just need to let it out. I bore three children with a man that I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. We both had a lot of growing to do. I never wanted to end the relationship but as we made a decision to move to ATL I gave him an out and he took it(he was becoming more and more distant so I figured he wanted out). Later he came to me and said he wanted to start over as a family in ATL. As I was looking for a place in ATL he found her while working in Florida. Unknowingly, I found out I was pregnant. He never told me that he was engaging in a long distance relationship with her. I started to dream about a woman in his life. The dreams became stronger and clearer. I confronted him. He lied. I confronted him. He lied. I confronted him. He finally tells me. At this time I am quite pregnant. He tells me that she is the one. Wow!!!! Can you say pain, boys and girls? Well, as the depression set in for a matter of years. She moves from California to ATL. She buys them a house (he is broke). They get married, and have a baby. He goes from driving a hoopty to a Beemer. Shame on me for not balling. Maybe he would have stayed
[Sidebar: I just called her to tell her she never answers when I call she knows he still loves me!] Well, back to the story. She cultivated, sorry THEY cultivated a relationship knowing that WE had a baby on the way. Two years ago we started sleeping together….. I love him so much. But I obviously do not love me. I have asked him to leave me alone. I am not interested in continuing this empty relationship. He answers to this is to come over to spend the night. Well, I wanted him to but the temporary comfort does not keep the emptiness and pain from following hours after he leaves. He will not discuss their relationship. He comments that he is not going to destroy a house to build one. How funny. He destroyed our house. Now he wants our house back but wants to keep the one over in Lithonia. I feel the only way for him to understand that I want it all or nothing is to tell her. I believe human nature will cause him to attend to her and she will force him to leave me alone.
Thank you for listening. I just needed to vent.
I am so strong when I am mad and hurt, but he shows up and my body responds to what it knows will follow.
I just emailed a copy of this to her.
At 1:59 pm on September 21, 2008, MegK commented:
okay so i am a 19 year old sleeping with a married man, i had a relationship with him prior to him getting married but he had to get married in order to have the mother of his child get a green card. At first I broke up with him because well i was always told you know marriage is sacred, but he is everything I have ever looked for. I am so in love wtih him and the other day I gave in, and we slept together again. I know its wrong but at the same time..is it really? He really isnt in love with this woman, he just married her so she can live here and he can see his daughter (they lived in the Dominican Republic and he never ever saw them).
Thanks for listening, just needed to write about it to you guys who kinda understand what I am going through
At 12:45 am on October 3, 2008, B+H commented:
Wow…so many women with the same deal. Yes…I am one of you. I am addicted to him. He is wonderful. Almost perfect except for the cheating. I have tried to stop talking to him, but, he contacts me. I can’t seem to keep myself from answering.(rolling eyes) What can I say? I know its wrong. I absolutely know he will never leave his wife. I will never ask him to. He has children. I could never take their family away from them. They love him. They look up to him. A lot of people in our community look up to him. He really is amazing.
I feel lucky and guilty and sad and passionate and in love and scared. There are so many feelings. Too many. Wish we could be together more often. Both our schedules don’t allow the kind of time we would like to spend with each other. I also am a parent. Not making the best choices here. I know. I also have a reputation to uphold in this community. I am the nice person. The good and kind person. This is totally out of character for either one of us. But here we are. Did we set out for it to happen? No. Could we have ignored it? Yes. But for once…I wanted to feel what it was like to be with someone like him. It is bliss. Every wonderful moment. Pure bliss. No matter what pain comes from this. I will always remember our blissful, passionate, perfect moments together. He has taught me what I want in a man..Minus the cheater of course. But if a man I was with cheated on me…wouldn’t that be karma biting me in the ass?! It is what it is.
At 6:19 pm on October 21, 2008, I was just wondering? commented:
Forget about their families and I am not passing any judgements because everyone has something. But for one second can you think how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your husband was with another woman?
At 6:24 pm on October 21, 2008, Curious commented:
Do these married men still love their wives? Do they tell you ladies this or do they just want to &*^( you?
At 10:01 pm on October 24, 2008, same scirpt commented:
I’m about to get married in one month, my fiance cheated on me last year and we decided to work it out. In the middle of that I met a man at work, who I was very attracted to. He is married and knows I’m about to get married. But the attraction was very strong. We emailed and called and it turned into lunch dates and sneaking away to meet for just a moment. We are now sleeping together with an agreement that the intimate level will end once I get married. I know it’s wrong and I’ve always talked bad about women who sleep with married men since my fiance cheated on me. But this man is so wonderful to me! I know he loves his wife and family as I love mine. But he wants to be there for me, take care of me, and love me. Why should I turn that down? I dont want him to leave his wife, and I would never leave my fiance but I know what this other man means to me and what I mean to him. And who knows maybe this is just Karma coming around to kick my fiance in the ass because I never cheated on him before he cheated on me. I know that doesn’t justify anything but that’s just the way MY SITUATION is
At 9:57 pm on October 27, 2008, AStrayOne commented:
I’m sleeping with a 30 year old married man, I’m 23. He works at a few bars and I’ve always seen him when my friends and I were out. One night 2 summers ago I got the guts (and by guts I mean i drank alot that night…) to talk to him, we exchanged numbers, and started to see each other when the night at the bar was over…I found out though a mutual friend he was married about 2 months into it…and swore him off…but then continued to see him. He also ended up living down the block from me, which makes it all the more convenient…I know that this relationship wont go anywhere, but i can’t help loving the fact that he’d rather sleep with me than go home to have sex wtih his wife…he makes me feel pretty and good and wanted…and I make him feel good and wanted also. I keep telling myself that if I dont expect anything, no one (me, really) will get hurt.
At 2:38 pm on October 30, 2008, Anonymous commented:
I’ve been sleeping with a married man for almost a year and a half. I met him through work. At first it was just sex, but now it is so much more. He practically lives with me, stays the night every night. He gives me every thing I could ever want and more. I’ve never once had to wonder where he is, what he’s doing, when is he going to call, because he always does. He’s always there for me. He says him and his wife are more like roommates, they don’t talk, kiss, have sex, nothing. But they do have two children, and that is the main reason why they are still married. She’s never once called him wondering where he is when he’s at my house, and I’ve seen emails she has sent him and text messages and they all point to divorce. And he has told me that by this time next year that he will be divorced and that we will be together. He just recently started saying those things, but I just don’t know. I ended things with him about a week ago because I’m not sure I want to be involved when the whole divorce thing comes around. He promised me that he would prove me wrong and that we will be together. So far every day since we stopped talking he’s left little reminders of himself around my office or at my house, a card, flowers, a note, etc. I honestly think him and I will happen, but I just can’t deal with all the guilt right now. (aka, people on my case every day about how wrong it is). So what do you think??? Should I stick it out with him or should I let him deal with this stuff alone and in the end if it’s meant to be he will come back to me?
At 11:30 pm on November 23, 2008, Mia commented:
What started as innocent flirting with my contractor turned into pure sexual desire. I am so attracted to this man the way he talks…smells. I don’t want anything, but hot steamy sex from him. It’s this animalistic urge I don’t want to fight. I know he is married, but I feel like that is his thing not mine. I wouldn’t cheat if I was in a relationship…I would leave, but I feel detached from his relationship. I don’t know her.
After months of mutual flirting we made out and messed around. I told my friends about it and one who just got engaged blew up at me. She told me how I was wrong and that she couldn’t believe what I was doing…she was disappointed. I feel like that is her crap…her fears for her own relationahip that she is putting on me. She told me she would be mad at me if I slept with him and she just did not want to hear anything else. I get it, but at the same time am pissed she is judging me. What means something to one person might not to someone else. I have always held my relationships and others in high reguard. I didn’t think I would be in this position, but now that I am it does not feel wrong. I can’t get my head wrapped around why that is, but it is. I’m still not sure what I will do, but I feel like sex is natural and what I am doing is not wrong for me.
At 9:57 pm on November 25, 2008, Thetruthasis commented:
So I must say, if you are going to break the rules,…break them right. If you can’t hang then you shouldn’t play the game…what does this mean? #1 He’s not going to leave his wife. Stop asking yourself why he would be with you if he’s happy at home. Yes its true he’s not happy at home but he also has a great non committed SEXUAL relationship with someone who knows he’s married so just has to take it. (for clarity purposes that person just mention is U!) So question answered “free sex and an ear” is why he comes to you. (yes it is the reason, the truth will set you free) #2 Yea ok, so he’s everything you want…wait..except SINGLE. You wanted a single man, why would you actually want someone who can’t keep a promise. No you’re not the one, your just the one right now, trust you’re probably not the first affair and you probably won’t be the last. #3 Does everyone notice that everyone is saying almost the exact same thing, I mean there are some differences, but is everyone sleeping with the same married man??? Ummm, clearly married men that cheat all have a way of rationalizing their actions to themselves, and you, cause all of the married men mentioned here are saying the same thing. Now, if you can not handle anything that has been posted here and you are pondering having an affair, clearly you are not ready nor should you enter into this. Now for the women who really are just guys underneath, (meaning you really have that uncanny ability to get it and go when its time) its a different story and you have to be accountable to your own conscious for that one. But for everyone else, who is sooooo in love, go to a club, bar, or speed dating, and find you someone single who will occupy you’re time and take your mind off of this Married “never gonna leave their wife, screwing you because you have a vagina and an ear” Man. Please, in love, I’m afraid to say that it is so late for someone who decided to fall in love with a married man. Maybe its not too late though, get strenght to say, “Ummm, yea, how about no this time, how about I go do something with my life instead screw you” Oh and DO NOT worry about his feelings, he’s not worrying about yours when he goes to kiss his wife GOODNIGHT!
-Spoken by one of your own…
At 9:44 am on November 29, 2008, sarah commented:
I have to say you ladies are pathetic. i cant believe your all fucking married men. When i think of the children he has at home , and you not thinking about that ,or not thinking ur the reason who might break that little boys family apart is just disgusting, how could you guys look at yourself in the mirror. i think its just self esteem. you have none. once you get some self esteem like i do , then you know how wrong and pathetic it is. you women have no morals what’s so ever. YOu make me sick!!
At 10:00 am on November 29, 2008, yasmine commented:
i once had a best friend who was sleeping with a married man. i decided to end the friendship , a friend who is capable of sleeing with a man shows you a lot about her , she cant be trusted who’s to say she wont be fucking your husband. im just saying if your wlling to be fucking a married, prepare to lose friends , prefer to have people look down on you,prepare to be called a homewrecker, slut and a whore every now and then. is that really worth it. think about it.
At 10:17 pm on December 20, 2008, Marie commented:
Falling in love is something u just can NOT do unless he first leaves his wife. If you can’t handle that emotionally…do NOT get involved. I have been sleeping with a married man for 3 mos now, and I have done this before…some of you understand…it’s exciting, and the draw is just too strong, ut again…you just can not fall in love. They almost neevr leave their wives no matter how miserable they are or they claim to be.
Call “us” what you will…we exist, and calling us slut/whore…whatever is not gonna make us go “OMG! SHe’s right!” and stop. lol. SIlly.
All I know is when he goes down on me, or I on him, or he’s inside of me…knowing that he’s not suposed to be, or I’m not suposed to….it is so super hott.
At 1:48 pm on December 22, 2008, tee commented:
Y is every on blaming her. What about him??? Oh that’s how women treat women
At 11:26 am on December 30, 2008, Carole commented:
How come there are no men here telling us they are sleeping with married women??’Its a mans world. they have the best of it. A stupid woman at home to clean,cook, feed, generally be their domestic slave and look after their offspring. And another stupid woman to fulfil their sexual needs, and boost their egos. Which one of these women are you? I know which one I would prefer to be.