July 20, 2008
I feel strangled in this relationship….
I regret becoming involved with a person that I met casually and even initially wanted as a friend. I may have even approached her first about a get together — hard to remember the details. While I find myself caring for someone because she has a tough home life, I do not like being needed/wanted by her. I don’t enjoy her company yet I find myself doing things with her. I also need friends but I feel strangled in this relationship.
I have compassion for her circumstances but there is no flow. I welcome comments to this post.
Submitted by: Dani
At 9:30 am on July 22, 2008, Mr Next Life commented:
Dani – Maybe you can help this person move toward making their home situation better – or removing themselves from it all together – and then they’ll find the freedom to give you more breathing room…
At 8:39 pm on August 1, 2008, K.T. commented:
Dani: You have to let her go as a girlfriend and maybe as a friend, too. It’s best for both of you. Otherwise you’ll start resenting her and maybe start treating her poorly, without respect. Let her know you need to break it off but want to be friends after you’ve taken some time to transition, tell her you don’t want to make things worse for her by not giving her the love she deserves. Help her find some therapy, some other support, if you feel compelled, but do not make matters worse in her life by pretending to care for her romantically when you don’t, can’t.