September 14, 2010
My little sister was terrified of me….
I regret not being a better big sister sooner. Now we’re very close, but it wasn’t the case when we were younger.
I was bad tempered, and aggressive, and my little sister was terrified of me. I regret so much being a monster who scared a little girl, who made her be on guard the whole time around me, because the slightest thing could set me off.
I regret that it took me 16 years to realise what I was doing. I regret that it took me so long to fix it and to have her love me instead of fear me.
Submitted by: Sarah
At 7:20 am on September 25, 2010, kenz commented:
I have the same sort of situation. My little brother was scared of me just like your sister was scared of you. We would get in physical fights and I guess I would always win. It felt good at the time but looking back I would gladly have let him win if it could repair the relationship between us. Also through verbal attacks I’ve pretty much dashed his self-esteem.. I just want to redo our childhood and become the friends we once were again. 🙁
At 2:12 am on October 4, 2010, Been There too commented:
16 years is actually pretty young to realize this. My brother used to beat me and pick on me, and probably never would have apologized for it if I hadn’t brought it up. Although you might not pick on your siblings any more, the best you can do is let them know how sorry you are and that you love them. It might help to know why you did it. Maybe you felt threatened they would receive too much of your parents attention (as I believe the case is with my brother). I have forgiven him for literally 15 years of bullying and beating on me because I could he went it when he said he was sorry. I hope and believe it is possible for you both to mend your relationships. Good luck.
At 11:41 pm on November 28, 2010, a sad person commented:
Maybe your sister was young enough to have those memories slip away. I am an older brother of 3 girls with 2 older sisters. I loved all of my younger sisters but I just disliked one. I would verbally insult her, I would do it to the others but with her I meant the insults. I would beat her but I would give a good hit when she pushed my buttons. I didn’t insult her just because of course. She would pods me off and pick on the youngest one. Now that we’re older one day I told her that even though I say things I truly love her, and would do anything for her. And I needed her to know this. I told her an insult, smiled and went inside the house that had our family for the holidays. You will only have your family in the end. The beat you can do.now is to become a role model for her and tell her how much you love her. I regret not doing it sooner.