September 27, 2011
I am sleeping with a married man….
I regret that I am sleeping with a married man.
I am a complete hypocrite. I kicked out my own husband of ten years, just three months ago. For cheating.
Then a month later, I bumped into an old friend in the supermarket. This is a guy I’ve known since I was a child, and we always liked each other, but never got it together. I always bump into him in the supermarket, as I am a manager there, and we always say hello, and we are also friends on Facebook. After this particular time, I received an inbox message from him, and we got chatting. By the end of the evening, we had swapped numbers, and have spoken every day since. It’s been 7 weeks.
We’ve been out together, and I have slept with him. He doesn’t wear his wedding ring, and has even met my mother when he came to pick me up to take me to work one morning, whilst his wife was at work, and had a coffee with us before we set off. He has told me he has fallen in love with me, and has admitted he is deliberately not sleeping with his wife in the hope she will end it with him because he cannot. He feels tied to her and the marriage. They have only been married for two years, and her family gave them thousands towards their dream wedding.
There have been numerous occasions when I have said I need to walk away from the situation, but then he will send me messages telling me he loves me and can’t be without me, and that he doesn’t want me to turn my back on him.
People at work have noticed him and asked who he is, as he will come and see me at work, and will hug me on the shop floor, and he says he doesn’t care who sees. He posts links to songs on Facebook, and often comments on my posts. People at work have asked who he is, as body language gives a lot away. I told one of my staff he is a friend who is married, and she said it doesn’t look like he will be for much longer with the way he looks at me.
He is currently on holiday with his wife, and has sent me numerous texts every day, telling me how much he loves me and how much he is missing me, and has said he will be straight in to see me at work as soon as he gets back from his holiday.
All my friends who I have confided in have said the same thing, he may be saying he can’t leave his wife, but his actions are saying otherwise. They don’t seem to think it will be long before their relationship is over.
I know I am a terrible person, and I hate what I am doing, yet I can’t imagine my life without him anymore. It isn’t just about sex. We have only slept together twice, yet we’ve seen each other roughly 2-3 times a week before he went on holiday.
I know I should walk away, but every time I try, I backtrack.
Submitted by: A Terrible Woman
At 8:52 pm on September 30, 2011, Friend of iRegret commented:
There’s another post on this site from December 2008 about a woman sleeping with a married man. It has dozens and dozens of comments. You should look it up (it’s titled “I started sleeping with a married man”). It will give you a wide range of perspectives. And he may love you, and he may be a great guy, but that doesn’t mean he’ll leave his wife. He may like the situation just as it is. Getting involved with a married person, male or female, is generally a risky pursuit. Hard on the heart, a test of one’s patience and nerve.
At 7:01 pm on October 23, 2011, A. Grace commented:
Did he ever leave her? Are you okay? I agree with the last comment, dating married guys can be really tough. Good luck to you.
At 11:49 pm on October 27, 2011, Mr commented:
You said in 1 paragraph u didn’t sleep with him. Then u said u did!!!!!”
At 4:25 pm on November 4, 2011, Yn commented:
I understand loving somebody in all the wrong situations.you can’t help yourself because you care for him so much.
you said that you kicked your husband out for cheating. Do you remember how that felt? betrayed? Hurt? I’m not judging,, I’m just hhoping that somebody will eventually think of the wife who is being lied to, because a few short months ago that wife was you. I hope his love is genuine and will do the right thing soon.
At 7:14 pm on November 14, 2011, anonymous commented:
Sleeping with a married man,you have far more to lose than to gain,you have all the disadvantages of a relationship with none of the advantages,it might be exciting now,but it will not last, someone will get badly hurt eventually and it might well be you.
At 7:26 pm on November 14, 2011, yv commented:
Don’t go there,you will get hurt,I know it is easier said than done.
At 6:48 am on January 4, 2012, Zozk Hasan commented:
I think you are living one time
so don’t feel bad and take this chance
don’t let him go between your hand
take it girl.
Zozk
Kurdistan/Iraq
At 11:52 pm on January 10, 2012, Anonymous commented:
I was involved with a married man. Bad on me I know, but we were both separated at the time. It went on for 6 months, after he moved back in with his wife. We still continued to sleep with each other. But I know I was stupid, but he was so nice too me. I’ve never had that in my own marriage. I ended up getting burned in the end. I still think of him, but I know he felt differently than I did and I am the one that looks like the bad person.