Today a woman friend of mine cried in my arms, and though I was holding her, was there with all of me, she was inconsolable. Her husband left her. He loves her but he loves the possibilities that a new woman represents more. She does not deserve it, and I want to be her champion, remind her as I\u2019d remind anybody of what a vibrant, charming woman she is, how precious and worthy, reliable and loving, witty and sexy, tall and poised… How sorry I am for all these losses that are often not our faults and still we claim them, take responsibility. I see my friend do that now, everyday, assign herself twenty, thirty, then forty pounds of blame, weighing herself down, turning herself into a discard, an unlovable thing. Better it be her fault than inexplicable, outside her control. Better it be her fault than his — see how she still protects him? Why? Because she loves him, even now.\u00a0 After all this and fifteen years of marriage. She\u2019ll love him for a long time, but the hope is that she\u2019ll come to love herself more and someday soon find a man who believes the possibilities she represents just impossible to part with.<\/p>\n
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Today a woman friend of mine cried in my arms, and though I was holding her, was there with all of me, she was inconsolable. Her husband left her. He loves her but he loves the possibilities that a new woman represents more. She does not deserve it, and I want to be her champion, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-157","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-friends"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/157","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=157"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/157\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=157"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=157"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iregret.net\/wp-goodies\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=157"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}